The two of you have had an argument: what happens next?

So you have had a disagreement with the man in your life.  Most likely it is not the end of the world.  One thing I have learned during thousands of readings over the last fourteen years is that most men eventually call a woman after an argument.  They may not call right away and they may not want to apologize, but in general, the man is the first to reach out.  What happens next is up to you.

So what do you when he calls?  How do you handle yourself?  These are some things I have learned about successful male/female communication.  I hope it is helpful.  To assist you in remembering these points I have come up with an acronym: S.P.A.T.

Stay Calm: The calmer your tone, the more closely your man will listen to you.  Ask yourself: do I enjoy being scolded, nagged, or berated by someone I love?  Probably not, and neither does the man in your life.  Keep your statements calm and to the point.  If you get upset and start to ramble on and on, your man will stop listening to you.

Positive statements work best.  For example, “It would be great if we could have a date night once a week.  I love it when you text me during the day for no reason at all.”  Refrain from pointing out which behaviors you don’t like; emphasize the ones that make you feel happy and secure.

Avoid blaming him for everything, i.e., ignoring you, not making time for you, preferring to spend time with his guy friends, etc.  The minute you start to blame a man for something he stops listening.  A litany of complaints will work against you and make him start to think that the two of you might be better off if you go your separate ways.  Avoid blaming him for all the issues in your relationship and if he brings up any issues that he has with your behavior, be prepared to take responsibility for them.

Timing: Timing may be the most important element in resolving a disagreement with your man.  Time the discussion appropriately.  This means picking a time of day and a day of the week when he is relaxed and at ease.  Some examples of unfavorable times to initiate a discussion are: when he’s hungry; when he’s tired; when he’s at work.  Also under no accounts start a discussion while the two of you are in the car together.  That will only make your man feel cornered and it could be dangerous to you or other drivers.

Remember that the angels are ready, willing, and waiting to help you with anything and everything!  A few angels who are especially helpful in resolving disagreements are the following:
Archangel Michael: this powerful archangel will quiet your fears and help you to control your temper
Raguel: this angel is a genius at patching up arguments with anyone in your life, whether it is a romantic partner, family member, or a friend
Ambriel: as the angel of communication, Ambriel will help you order your thoughts and choose your words carefully.

I hope my silly acronym was helpful and that you enjoyed this blog.  Have a great day!